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Relationships of Convenience
by Aluna Joy YaxkÍin
The idea of convenience, and what we are willing to do, and not do, became a subject
for thought the last few weeks. It was triggered by a note I received from a bookstore
owner in Chicago.
We were discussing the Solar Wave [www.kachina.net/~alunajoy/solarwave2005.html].
She was telling me that people would get involved only if it was convenient for them.
In other words, people would not participate in events that could have potential
to heal humanity and the planet if it was inconvenient.
I began to look at this idea of convenience. In my sessions with clients I began
to watch for places that they were willing to settle for less to avoid the inconvenience
or conflict created by shifting or changing any given situation. I began to see that
a core reason why the consciousness of humanity and the state of our planet is the
way it is, is because it is too inconvenient for us to fix it.
Have we become so comfortable, or should I say anesthetized, in our current situations
that we are not willing make the changes needed in our lives, communities, countries
and planet, to make a better life or a better world? Are we stunting our spiritual
and emotional well-being just because itÍs too inconvenient to begin to live our
lifeÍs purpose? Have we filled our lives up with so much DOING that we are too sedated
to consider just being?
My heart would love to write about living love today, but I canÍt help seeing that
many are settling for less than love in their relationships. Many stay in relationships
much longer than they want to, because it is simply inconvenient to leave them. It
would mean they would have to go through the turmoil of losing the relationship.
Many things change when we leave any form of relationship. We might have to move,
change our jobs, lose a few of our friends or even wake up and evolve to the next
level. Oh My!
We want peace and harmony in the home, so we settle for less-than-good behavior from
our children, just to get a few moments of peace. It has become inconvenient to stand
up to our little angels and do what we know is right. Those little angels know this,
and they work us over and over, controlling our lives.
Our marriage and children are understandably difficult relationships to change, because
there is a lot at stake. But I have to ask WHY we allow friends to abuse us. They
treat us in a condescending ways, making us feel less than who we are? Do not support
us. Are we willing to settle for half of a friendship and endure the drama or abuse
that goes with the other half?
We settle for less in our jobs the same way we settle for less in relationships.
We stay in a job because it is too inconvenient to find a new job. We have lost our
passion for what we are doing, and it has become too inconvenient to find our lifeÍs
work. Our bosses and co-workers take advantage of the situation, because they know
that we will not stand up to being over worked and used. Why is it that we are willing
to risk our health and endure in a stressful job over mere convenience?
We have convenience stores, convenient relationships, convenient on-line shopping,
convenient jobs and live in convenient areas. But do we ever ask ourselves if we
are really happy? Do we ask why we are willing to settle for less? Living convenient,
tidy lives packs a huge price. Are we willing to pay the price?
Staying in any situation as a matter of convenience takes a great toll on our physical
health, our immune system, our spiritual lives and our emotional body. Convenience
has also triggered a phenomenon of global isolation and loneliness. To stay in a
relationship of convenience, one must shut down the heart just to endure the convenience.
It is no wonder why so many are unhappy, feel unwell, are tired all the time and
feel uninspired. Are we willing to shut down our heartÍs desires so we can maintain
the conveniences of our lives? Are we letting our dreams die to maintain the status
quo? Are our fantasies possible realities that we have given up on?
There are only two ways to live: either in love or in fear. When we settle for less,
we are neither doing what is best for us, nor are we loving ourselves. We are not
living in truth or in love. We are actually living in fear.
If we are not willing to stand up and do whatÍs best in our personal lives, with
our family, with our community or our country, then we are to blame for the state
of our family, our community, our country and the planet.
This brings me back to where I started when I began to write this article. I have
a DREAM that we can change this world in a positive way. I think it is your dream
too, is it not? I believe that we can create a world of peace, harmony and balance
in spite of the overwhelming outer evidence. I believe we can love our diversities,
not fight over them. I believe we have it in ourselves to see beyond the differences
in race, religion and culture. I believe in the power of gathering groups. I believe
in the power that YOU have, and the power that I have. If we could just take a little
time away from our busy lives to gather together, to multiply the power we have collectively,
and DO SOMETHING GOOD! The signs are evident. We cannot afford the price of convenience
anymore.
Aluna Joy YaxkÍin is an author, guide and mystic. Aluna has based her lifeÍs work
on mystical/shamanic experiences with the Star Elders that accelerated over a decade
of travel in Central and South America. Contact Aluna at (928) 282-6292, visit www.1spirit.com/alunajoy, e-mail alunajoy@kachina.net
or write her at P.O. Box 1988, Sedona AZ 86339.
Copyright © 2005 Aluna Joy YaxkÍin. All rights reserved. |
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