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Holding Onto Your Dream
by Elizabeth Clare Prophet
Introduction: Elizabeth Clare Prophet is an expert on relationships. She teaches
that there is a partner that God has planned for you to be with, if marriage is a
part of your life plan. In her best-selling pocket guide Soul Mates and Twin Flames
-- The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships, she talks about your twin flame,
the other half of your divine whole, and honest keys to making your relationship
work.
You need to have a good deal of self-control. You've got to love Love enough to respect
it, to hold your peace and your harmony when those old records of ancient clashes
come up for resolution. You've got to hold on to your Dream, seal those unkind words,
the cruel criticism, the put-down and anything that will shatter the matrix of the
most beautiful gift Life will ever give to you -- perfect love.
Give in. You don't have to win every argument. Preserve the integrity and self-respect
of the one you love and thereby guarantee your own. The mantra of John the Baptist
will go a long way on the path of sacrifice and surrender that marriage is: "He
must increase, but I must decrease." (John 3:30)
So you have to have a dedication to something more than your twin flame, and that
something more is God. You've got to love God first and be very sure of your path
and your service and that you're not going to give in to discord or the theatrics
of the human ego and all kinds of self-indulgences and demands -- whether your own
or your mate's.
You cannot demand that anyone be a complement to your human personality with all
of its faults. You cannot expect someone to be to you father and mother, brother
and sister, lover, husband or wife, and son and daughter all at once, so that every
time you experience the least little bit of a problem, your idea is that this twin
flame or this spouse is going to move right in and pick you up and everything's going
to be rosy.
You have to decide to be complete in yourself -- stop that pouting and self-pity
and that constant demand for attention -- and then by the magnet of your wholeness,
you will attract wholeness in another person.
Read I Corinthians 13 often and keep a copy of the Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi
on your nightstand so you remember that true love is self-givingness. The Prophet
by Kahlil Gibran will restore your memory of the bliss of love and marriage. True
love is sacrificial -- always putting the beloved first....
We all have human weaknesses. We all have human problems. We have human things we
haven't overcome. When we think of the spouse, made in the image of the Divine Spouse,
the one who would be the perfect one for us, we always imagine that that person should
be perfect.
So when they're not perfect in our eyes, which measurement we take by our own state
of imperfection, we throw a tantrum. We rant, we rave, we make demands, we scream,
we sob. All these things are going on in marriages all over the world because somebody
is expecting another person to be something more than that person is and better than
they themselves are. If we have faults, we want the other person to be perfect.
So we make demands of people in a marriage that are totally unrealistic. And this
is why marriages fall apart. Not to mention, of course, that one of the basic reasons
people marry is for sensual gratification. Putting that aside, all of the other psychological
situations of strident tensions between human personalities become a horrendous mark
against the divine image of Father-Mother God -- against wholeness.
I advocate that you meditate upon your Self and your life in both the divine and
the human sense of the word and realize that if you want to attract the beautiful
lady of grace or the knight in shining armor, you have to become that counterpart
first. Look at yourself in terms of scrubbing up that karma with violet flame and
meditation and coming to a resolution of your own psychology.
In seeking your twin flame, the only real desire that you ought to have is to bring
to that twin flame the gift of your love, your self, your own spiritual attainment,
as well as your outer professional accomplishments.
What bouquet of flowers are you ready to bring to your twin flame today?
I'd like you to meditate upon this because it's a most important part of your understanding
of your psychology. After you've defined what you are capable of giving on one piece
of paper, you should write down what you know, by past performance and present awareness,
you're not capable of giving...
Get down to the basics in life. Can you keep a schedule? Can you add happiness to
a household? Can you be patient with children? Can you be patient with the child
in the person that you're imagining is going to come down the highway one of these
days?
Look at how you interact with yourself. Can you get along with yourself or do you
have problems with yourself? Do you have moods? Do you have ups and downs?
Many people think it's all in the package, in the appearance. But it isn't. That
wears away very quickly. You've got to have heart. You've got to have soul. You've
got to be willing to give.... You have to be very honest in a relationship.... So
when we recognize the fundamental soul need in life for "the Friend," we
need to be careful to understand what it is that we really need in that friend.
For more information about Soul Mates and Twin Flames -- The Spiritual Dimension
of Love and Relationships, visit www.suonline.org to take the free course or call
Summit University at (952) 926-4385.
Elizabeth Clare Prophet is a pioneer of modern spirituality and an internationally
renowned author. For more than 40 years she has published the teachings of the immortal
saints and sages of East and West known as the ascended masters. She has given the
world a new understanding of the ancient wisdom as well as a path of practical mysticism.
Her books, available in fine bookstores worldwide, have been translated into 20 languages
and are sold in more than 30 countries.
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