| Advice to loner: Affirm your
worth Dear Louise | by Louise Hay Dear Louise, I'm a bit of a loner, and the last few years I seem to have lost my ability to smell. No one can tell me why this has happened, and for some reason, I tend to keep to myself. What do you suggest I do to regain my sense of smell and overcome my self-imposed isolation? -- T.S., St. Paul, Minn. Dear T.S., You've given me just the tip of the iceberg of clues. Your story entails so very much more than you're telling me, so I have to rely on my intuition. It's not the nose alone that's the problem; it's the whole person, and the beliefs you hold about yourself and about life. Loners usually feel left out, cut off from the mainstream, and they become reclusive to protect themselves. There's probably part of you that feels you've been badly rejected, and now you're rejecting a large part of life. The nose has so much to do with the self. We recognize ourselves by our own smell. Do you feel that you're not worth knowing? It's all in the past. Let it go. Just be yourself. You're good enough as you are. Forgive whomever you need to forgive, then know and affirm with me: "The past is over. In this present moment, I love my nose, and I allow it to take in life. I recognize myself with love. I open my heart to life, and I am willing to let life in. I am always safe and divinely protected." Dear Louise, I'm having an operation next month to help me have a baby, but I'm very afraid. I'm 38 years old and don't have any children yet. I can't stop worrying whether I'll be fine after the operation, whether the operation will be a failure, or how my health will be after this. And, of course, I wonder if this operation will really make it possible for me to get pregnant. -- C.T., Lima, Peru Dear C.T., There are two issues here. First, do you really want to have a child, or are you being pressured by friends and family? Not every woman on this earth has to have a child, and this is not a bad thing, nor are you bad for being childless. Second, you never want to do anything in a state of fear. My feeling is that what you're really frightened about is being in a hospital. If you're not 100 percent sure what you're doing and why, then this isn't the time for you to do it. Remember, fears are only thoughts, and they can be changed. Let me give you some affirmations for being in the hospital, if you choose to go. Say these words over and over to yourself from this moment on, until the whole procedure is over and you're totally healed. You will be fine: "I am divinely protected at all times. Every hand that touches my body is a healing hand. This is a very successful and simple procedure. Everybody is an expert at what they do. I am surrounded by love. I heal quickly. All is well in my world." Dear Louise, I'm a 26-year-old female with a long list of abandoned goals. I went to college for one semester and quit due to a classroom phobia, I went to an equestrian school and quit three weeks before graduating with my certificate, and I worked for nine months as a training assistant and then quit three months shy of my agreement date. I've jumped around from job to job, not allowing myself to acquire a position that uses my skills. I really believe that I'm a talented, highly intelligent person, but I continue to sabotage myself just shy of reaching my goals. I need your help! -- H.T., Boulder, Colo. Dear H.T., Who would you upset by being successful? Was there someone in your family who was always putting you down or saying you were stupid and would never amount to anything? Children can take these messages to heart, and years later still be trying to make them true. You're not the helpless little child you once were. You're an adult, and very capable of making your own choices in life. Instead of thinking of yourself as a sabotager, think of yourself as someone who loves and supports yourself in all of your endeavors. Affirm: "I am a very accomplished person, and I deserve to succeed. I now accept success as my Divine right." Change your thinking and you'll change your life. Forgive the past and love yourself, and know that you're loved by Life itself. If you would like Louise to answer your letter in this publication, please send it to: Dear Louise Column, c/o Hay House, Inc., P.O. Box 5100, Carlsbad, CA 92018-5100, or e-mail your letter to: admin@hayhouse.com (letters used in this column may be edited for length and clarity). Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and I Can Do It®. Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister in 1981, she has assisted millions of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise's works have been translated into 29 different languages in 35 countries throughout the world. Subscribe to the Louise Hay Newsletter by calling 1 (800) 654-5126, or fax (800) 650-5115. Ask for a free catalog of books, audios, videos, and other products by Louise Hay and other Hay House authors. Visit www.LouiseHay.com or the Hay House website at www.hayhouse.com Copyright © 2004 Louise Hay |
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