| Be clear as to who you really
are Smoke Signals | by Debbie Smoker Dear Debbie, I'm going through a difficult time and hope you can shed some insight. I'm trying to walk my sacred path and get on my feet financially, but keep running into obstacles. A while ago, I signed a contract with someone and paid him to do some public relations for me. He broke the contract with no notice, saying he was too busy with his own projects. He never returned any of the money I gave him. Recently I made a verbal commitment to sit for a child three days a week. The parents asked that I give them at least two months notice if I could no longer sit. I rearranged my entire schedule and cancelled some events to be able to do this. Yet, after one week the parents told me they no longer need me due to a shift in their own schedules. The first contract stated that if either of us wanted out, we must give two months notice. Both of these people broke their contract with no notice. I honored my commitment. I don't understand why this is happening to me. And frankly, I'm angry. -- Junie P., Sun Prairie, WI Dear Junie, First off, identify your feelings. You need to deal with them. Perhaps you are not only angry, but frustrated, hurt, confused or scared. For whatever reason, you are drawing this pattern to you. You are seeing yourself in a victim role here and we want to get you into the victor state. There is a chance that this is a karmic thing. In past lives, you may have broken contracts with these people and now you are on the receiving end. Take an honest look at yourself. Have you in this life ever broken contracts with others? Or walked out on a job giving no notice? This may be occurring as an opportunity for you to understand how your behavior affects others. Ask yourself what you can learn from these experiences. Acknowledge the people and things in your life, good, bad and indifferent, without judging, approving or rejecting. Merely recognize what is present in your life. Many adults have a fixation with failure. What pushes your buttons? Be conscious of when you're responding to your buttons being pushed. Learn to detach or you'll keep drawing what you don't want into your life. Face your fears. Do you fear abandonment? You were there for others and they dishonored you and your needs. Have you been there for yourself? Or are you abandoning yourself, your passions, your own dreams? Do you fear success? Walk through it in your heart and mind. Success will change your life. Are you truly ready for this? The voice of intuition is always going to tell you to go where you're most afraid to go. Ask yourself what it is that you really want to do. It's important to be very clear in your intent. Then put it out to the universe, but don't jump at the first opportunity that comes along unless it feels really right in your gut. Remember, the universe will always offer you limitless choices and opportunities. To thine own self be true. Bless you. Send questions to Debbie on any aspect of metaphysics or spiritual growth by e-mail to dsmoker@execpc.com Debbie Smoker is based in Madison, Wisc., and is available for speaking, doing readings and workshops. She is the author of Turn On Your Magic Eyes and Joy Of Jamaica, the first of two books in a series about a man's spiritual evolution. Call Debbie at (608) 833-0102 or e-mail dsmoker@execpc.com. Check out her website at www.dsmoker.com. Copyright © 2004 Debbie Smoker |
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